Six With Sticks

by Six Kennedy kids and their parents


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Chip on my shoulder

I have developed a chip on my shoulder about my kids, and I don’t like it. I coach sports and I coach my daughters and my son on a lot of teams.

I think they all have potential to be very successful in sports. They have the talent. At this point in their maturity, Elizabeth has already displayed the desire, work ethic, and love of the game that are necessary. Eden is getting there, and I think she will get there if she continues on the right path.

There is a lot of negativity in our community though directed at our daughters. Not going into specifics, there are many parents that go to many lengths to exclude my daughters from activities and to prop up other kids as more talented than my daughters.

These sorts of things should just naturally work themselves out on fields. Parents and coaches should be supportive of all of the kids in the community, and the cream should naturally rise to the top. It is sad when your own kids are continually denied access to the fields to even try to prove themselves. I often have to fight even to have my kids allowed to participate, and by that point, the negativity towards my kids has even grown greater by those that wish to keep them down.

It is very sad, and not how I had hoped we would raise our children.


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Labor Day field hockey

Our hometown’s recreational program hosts a play day for field hockey on Labor Day. Liz and Eden are on the same field hockey team this year. This is the first year they’ve actually been on the same sports team for anything. Eden is playing up, as a 3rd grader, in a 4th/5th grade league.

Eden held her own yesterday through three games. She had one shot, and just missed the goal. Besides that, she was in on some action and fought hard on the field. Smallest player on the field, but one of our best players.

Liz is really playing well. She is unassuming, but is the best player on our team. It was on full display in the last game on turf. The other team was stacked, and the rest of our team was pretty gassed. It was like heavyweights throwing punches, the other team’s best players kept making tremendous plays, and Liz would counter. Big drive, Liz stops it cold; Liz dodges through one player, stopped by the next, then Liz runs her down and takes the ball back. All game long.

The best part is that a bunch of high school players were watching the game and working the clock and tents. After the game, they saw Liz and told her that they had been watching her play and that she is a star.

Even better, Liz shyly said thanks, and never told her mother this. Humility. I just happened to overhear it all. Proud dad.


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Frustrated

Late last night, I returned home from a lacrosse practice with the Redshirts 2019 team. I was very frustrated … with myself.

I walked in the door, and went straight upstairs. Noah was already asleep. Luke was asleep. Eden already in bed, about asleep. Liz and Maggie were finishing their showers and headed to bed.

This is the first week of school. First days of Kindergarten for Maggie. First days of middle school for Elizabeth. So much I want to celebrate with them, or at least ask them about.

Over the weekend, Maggie and Noah and I got workbooks, intending that we would work on these workbooks throughout the school year.

But, I have been terribly busy these past three days, with lacrosse, with field hockey, with work. And the thing that is most important to me, the thing that is my number 1 priority, my family, has suffered. And, I’ve suffered because I am missing it, and I don’t want to. They have been asleep and in bed the last 3 nights and I have spent zero time with any of them.

Marcia was very upset with me last night. She asked me one thing, “Is it worth it?”

For all of the extra stuff I do, especially with sports, I have never made a dime. I do it for the love of it, and because I think I can make a difference. But it doesn’t benefit our family. In fact, all of this work has only caused my family stress.

And so I am frustrated … with myself.

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Kindergarten, here I come

Kindergarten, here I come

Maggie

Maggie

Maggie, Eden, Noah - 1st day of school

Maggie, Eden, Noah – 1st day of school

Maggie - Kindergarten

Maggie – Kindergarten

Liz - so pretty in her uniform

Liz – so pretty in her uniform

Maggie - 1st day of Kindergarten

Maggie – 1st day of Kindergarten

Liz - 1st day of middle school

Liz – 1st day of middle school

Liz - 1st day at St. Paul's

Liz – 1st day at St. Paul’s


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Finder of things

Noah has always been very adept at finding things.  Whenever we lose something around the house, he is very helpful in finding it.

For the last two days, George has been complaining about his lost flip flops.  Finally, today, I told him that, if he wanted to find it, he should just ask Noah.

So George asked Noah, and within 60 seconds, George had his flip flops back.  He found them so quickly that George joked that Noah must have been hiding them the last few days.

I asked Noah how he found them so fast.  He said that he looked in the room where his kids slept because they were probably in there.  And he found them under Piper’s bed.

I am continually impressed with my son, Noah.  And I am always proud of him.


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Father’s day blessings

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This has been a wonderful week, and I have had many blessings bestowed upon me by my children. Maggie graduated PreK last week. Eden and Elizabeth both brought home straight As. Noah did very well on his report card too. Elizabeth graduated elementary school, and is moving on to St Paul’s in the fall. Liz and her Redshirts team finally got to play their own age group this week; they beat Heros in an exhibition game. Our team didn’t even play that well, but definitively overmatched the opponent. And Eden won her first championship with the Redshirts Prep team. Lots of good things to come for Eden and her team; I think they will have a lot of success. And after the championship, we drove down to Virginia and got to hang out with my cousins, Kim … and DUSTY (home from Switzerland for the weekend).

And lastly, I am blessed to have a wonderful supportive wife. Marcia and Elizabeth helped throw a wonderful event on Saturday. The Maryland Tyker Championship was a great success. All of the teams had fun. We had a lot of compliments. We have a great team in the Kennedy household. Mom watched the younger kids. Dad and Marcia ran the event. Elizabeth and her teammates volunteered and made the event run smoothly. I coached. And Eden and her teammates brought me home some hardware.

Maggie graduates PreK - kindergarten, here she comes!

Eden graduates PreK – kindergarten, here she comes!

Liz beats Heros and dominates the draw circle

Liz beats Heros and dominates the draw circle

Pinwheel

Pinwheel

Maggie

Maggie

Elizabeth - last day at Hillcrest Elementary School

Elizabeth – last day at Hillcrest Elementary School

Liz graduates elementary school

Liz graduates elementary school

Eden - Champ!

Eden – Champ!

Eden and Winnie

Eden and Winnie

Redshirts Prep - MD Tyker Champs

Redshirts Prep – MD Tyker Champs

Coaches

Coaches


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Learning to walk

Jack is a happy little guy. He laughs at the dinner table. His older siblings are always paying attention to him and trying to entertain him. And he tries to emulate them. For a while, he has been standing up and walking around furniture. But lately, he has started to stand up in the middle of a room, stand for a minute, and sit back down. I think the boy will be running before we know it.

Waving good bye to Daddy in the morning

Waving good bye to Daddy in the morning

The older kids also play a lot of lacrosse in the house. And he goes to a lot of games. It is neat to see him emulate them that way too.

I wanna play too

I wanna play too

A lot of times, he grabs a lacrosse stick and crawls around the floor with it. If he finds a ball, he’ll put it in the stick, and sometimes even cradles!


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Motivation?

I arrived at halftime on Sunday.  I had been with the older team.  The older team dominated through both games (18-6 and 17-5).  I got out of the car, and Dave Blair and Paul Tomick gave me the quick rundown.  We’re down 4-3.  They need a motivational speech, Coach.

I’ve been there before.  I bring them into a huddle at halftime and talk to them, and they show up as this amazing team in the second half and the parents all wonder what I said to them at halftime.  The truth is I don’t always know what it is that gets them to play so well.  I tell them specific things.  Things they are doing well.  Things they aren’t doing well.  And I tell them to focus on one play at a time.  I usually tell them how much I believe in them and that they can beat this team.  What’s the name of the game?  Ground balls.  Shirts on 3, 1-2-3 – SHIRTS, WHAAAT?

So, this day was no different.  I ran across the field to join the huddle.  The girls saw me coming and got excited.  Eden’s face lit up.  She calls me, Coach Dave.  The way she was smiling, I knew we wouldn’t lose.  In this case, I had no idea what they were doing well or not.  Or what they needed to focus on.  So, I told them we need to beat this team.  We need to do it one play at a time.  One ground ball.  One pass.  One shot.  One save.  One draw.  One play at a time.  It starts with the draw.  We need to win the draw, and we need to get the ground ball.  I need someone out there that wants to get that ground ball.  Who wants to get the ground ball?  15 hands went up.

Cheering on the Redshirts

Cheering on the Redshirts

That is all that it took.  They were dominated in the first half by a bigger (2 years older) and more physical team.  But in the second half, they took over.  It was their game.  From the first whistle to the last.  And their coach was cheering them on from the sideline.

Caitlin and Eden

Caitlin and Eden

In the second half, we outscored the other team 7 goals to 1. We won the game with a final score of 10-5.


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Grace and Beauty

Grace and Beauty. Which is which? I don’t think the answer is important. These two took my breath away.

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Eden and Maggie each danced in their annual recital with Turning Pointe.  They were beautiful.  I couldn’t take my eyes off of them.  And I got choked up the entire time they were dancing.  Of course they were the best in their respective classes.  Maggie had a little move where she spins around moving her shoulders up and down and moving her hips.  Eden has stage presence and confidence, makes eye contact with the audience and smiles the entire time.

I hope both of the girls continue to pursue dance, because I am so proud, and I enjoy watching them.

Eden was nervous the night before.  This is different than a lacrosse game.  You work all year for one performance.  There is a lot of pressure on you up on that stage.  And Eden is the lead on a lot of parts of the dance.  She may have been nervous, but she nailed it.  I had to fight back tears the entire time watching.

 

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On the up and up

Life is full of ups and downs.  Every year has its share.  Every week has its share of ups and downs.  Heck, with a family my size, there are several ups and downs each day.

There have been a lot of downs this week.  Noah with a severe allergic reaction and asthma attack.  Eden having trouble with kids at school.  Some people writing negative things about me on Facebook (I shouldn’t care about this).  And I had a bad day at work on Tuesday, very disheartening.

But the highs this week are outstanding.  Especially those that have to do with lacrosse.

First off, Noah’s team is dominating.  Surprise surprise.  We were missing some of our stronger players the other night, including Noah and Michael, and handily beat the other team.  The kids all had fun.  It was really cool to watch Ian get so excited after he scored a goal.

And secondly, it is a great week to be involved with the Redshirts.  We picked up a goalie this week for Eden’s team.  The family seems really nice and the girl is very positive and willing to learn.  She has a great attitude.  On Elizabeth’s team, we picked up two new players this week, and maybe a third.  We’ve ironed out coaches for next year for all of the teams.  And we’ve got the 2020, 2021 and 2022 teams’ cores already established for next year.  The core group of 2019s is really strong as well, we just need to boost the number of girls by a few.

Thirdly, I am wrapping up the spring season of the NPYGLL.  I have been a member of the board for a year, but stepped up this spring and took on a lion share of the duties of running the league.  I think I did a great job, although a lot of it is thankless work.  I am pleased that the league is so successful, and hope that the hiccups, as minor as they are, have managed to go unnoticed.

Lastly, Marcia is finishing up her class tomorrow.  She is signing up for a CNA course this summer.  And we have a plan to get some things about our household back on track, some things that have been causing stress for some time.

You know, when I was nineteen, Grandpa took me on a roller coaster.  Up, down.  Up, down.  Oh, what a ride!  I always wanted to go again.  You know, it was just so interesting to me that a ride could make me so frightened, so scared, so sick, so excited, and so thrilled all together!  Some didn’t like it.  They went on the merry-go-round.  That just goes around.  Nothing.  I like the roller coaster.  You get more out of it.   — Grandma, Parenthood, 1989